Yesterday started with asking a direct how the work I had assigned him the day before was progressing. When he told me that another direct had told him to work on something else. I gave him feedback, which was not as well delivered as it could have been.
(I give fairly regular feedback (2 - 3 times a day across 5 directs). Usually affirming, rarely adjusting.)
He then erupted.
I spent the morning putting out the ensuing fires.
The exact words I used: "When I ask you to work on a specific task, and then discover that you're working on something else, here is what happens: I feel that you don't respect me as a manager".
Is this as poorly worded as the response indicated, or am I giving my direct's response too much weight.
How could I have delivered this better.