Could use some guidance. Recently interviewing for an open position. Brought in one candidate for on-site interviews. Decided not to make the person an offer.
The candidate followed up later via LinkedIn - asking if I could put in a good word about him with the hiring manger for a different position at a different company.
We are consulting for that company. I'll be advising the company not to consider the candidate for employment for the same reason we didn't: Track record of stagnant development, and, inter-personally, the person would be hard to deal with - not self-aware, self-absorbed, and in need of much guidance, while showing signs of carelessness.
What's the right way to feed that back to the candidate? My choices:
A -- Simply ignore the communication.
B -- Feedback something non-committal.
C -- Feedback that I don't think this role is for them.
I think the *right* thing to do is to "C".
Ignoring the communication is a cop out. Feeding back something non-committal also seems like less than I should do for someone that we did spend some time and effort developing a relationship with.
However, how can I feedback in a respectful fashion? I've already turned down the person once. Now I have to do so a second time? The truth of the matter looks something like this:
"PERSON, I'll be glad to share the positive things I learned about you and your professional background during our interview process with HIRING MANAGER. And - I don't know this is the right opportunity for you, or for COMPANY at this time. They are looking for someone to come in and immediately bring expertise and leadership instantly to build out their new operations process from the ground up. I don't know that your experience and their needs are a good fit. I think they'd be looking for path blazing from you that I'm not convinced your background would bring. You'd be learning along with them, rather than leading them."
Any help her making this less harsh?
Also - am I over-thinking this? Is there a case to be made for being more non-committal? Just stopping at the first sentence above? (but I feel as if that's implying something that isn't true, that I'd be offering a recommendation)
Thank you if you have some thoughts. The main issue is 1) How to be honest, and not misleading; but 2) Not a jerk.