I have a relatively new direct assigned to me who is the highest D I have ever come across. I can't catch even a touch of the other profiles. I am strong D and I, but compare to his D-ness, I might as well be S!
I have the Effective Relationship Series and have already read the "I'm an I, my direct is a D". I felt given this might be the best option - but I will have a look at the "I'm a D..." one too. I saw my Direct in every paragraph. I can see the upside; he is definitely a very driven doer who will get things done.
But he is ruffling feathers, including those of our team's best supporters, and including mine. He consistently steamrollers anyone who questions, challenges, pushes back or disagrees, including me. Every battle is the hill you have to die on, even extraordinarily small ones. While he brings an extraordinary skill set, there are areas that are quite new to him, and even in these areas he steamrolls people with many years experience. If I could once see him say (or act) to someone "I hadn't thought of that" or "You have s point" or " how can we build that in" or " how can we accommodate that" if would make such a difference!
Or ask, instead of demand. "I must...", "I have to...".
Personally, I am now at the point where I don't want to talk to him. Not good.
I have tried giving feedback to this high D, but I do not feel it is effective - because the high D is too busy telling me why I'm wrong. I can understand the appeal of just agreeing - the outcome is the same.
The feedback I have been given about him from others is remarkably consistent. I have also had comments from my team.
How do I help this extraordinarily focused Highest of High Ds to ease up? I really want him to work out!