I am an avid manager tools follower and have been giving feedback regularly for the last 2-3 years. The first year was a little rocky, but would say by now I'm reasonably comfortable with giving feedback and do a decent job delivering it. I'd give myself a solid B...could always be better!
Until now, I haven't heard any complaints from my directs regarding feedback and they seem to respond well to it and appreciate it. I have one direct however, who is very defensive. She'll stop and grab a pen and write down any negative feedback I give her (which is relatively rare- 90% + I give is positive). Recently she was extremely defensive to some negative feedback I gave her regarding intrapersonal skills and now says she feels like she is being "picked on," and doesn't even like me giving her a lot positive feedback, especially on "little things"...she "doesn't need it." She claims she still wants feedback, but not as much, and only in one-on-one's. She doesn't want to be approached any other time. I explained to her how I don't find that effective to wait until O3's- depending on the timing, it could be days in between something happens, she'll forget the details, I'll forget the details of what happened, etc. Any suggestions? I probably give this direct 3-7 bits of feedback per week.