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How do you get direct reports to use 1-on-1's correctly?
How do you get them to take advantage of them?

One direct report never says all the good work she is doing. She is not using this time to personally market herself. I compliment her and she says, "Oh that's wasn't very good, plus I just didn't for selfish reasons." She doesn't get it. She talks about all kinds of personal, sometimes too personal stuff. She is not trying to further her career. She's killing it without knowing it.

Please advise.

Jon

Mark's picture

Jon-

I know it's not this simple (as suggested by my note), so if you wouldn't mind, I'd love to read more details about this situation.

Nevertheless, it "sounds" to me like this is a simple opportunity to give feedback. When she gets too personal, help her see that by showing her where she's missing out. When she speaks negatively about herself, be direct and kind about why that's not effective (this is about effectiveness, not about her).

With some more info, I might be able to be more targeted... but I hope this helps.

I also want to say, NICE JOB. You're using one on ones to develop better relationships, and then LISTENING carefully to your directs. That makes you an excellent manager. Well done you.

Mark

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Thank you. More details would be that basically, this person doesn't know how to "suck up". I mean this in a good way. She doesn't know how or doesn't care about making herself look good in front of her boss. She doesn't seem to get the importance of selling yourself.

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Jon-

Niiiiice. But VERY helpful! Thank you.

Here's a thought. Why not have her listen to the casts about managing up?

Mark