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How do I deal with my boss’ unwanted and sometimes public comments about my medical condition/treatment? Can I get the comments to stop without damaging the relationship?
Following an injury, my doctor recommended a walking boot to immobilize my ankle. My total rehab could range from 3 to 12 months. Since my boss has undergone several recent joint surgeries he now believes himself an orthopedic expert and insists that my injury should be treated with immediate physical therapy. His comments include “You can’t possibly think that boot will help.” and “Why aren’t you in physical therapy?” Such comments seem pointed at my intellect and judgment, which are both important to our work.
Should I privately tell my boss that the comments make me uncomfortable? Am I being too sensitive here? I’d prefer not to damage the relationship since I need to discuss career development with him. I fear retaliation; should I just ignore the comments? I assume any HR involvement would immediately destroy the relationship.
For context, I work in a medium-sized US company which was recently acquired by a significantly larger, blue chip US-based company.
Thank you for reading and for your input.
-M
ADA
Find out if maybe you are covered by the Americans with Disabilities Act. It might not apply since you have a temporary condition; but it prohibits discrimination based on a disability, and ongoing comments about a medical issue might count.
ADA
Thanks for the suggestion. My reading on the topic indicates that the ADA would not apply because of the temporary nature of the condition.
From what you have
From what you have described, it doesn't sound like your boss is discriminating against you, just giving you unwanted and unwarranted advice. Going to HR will destroy the relationship. In my opinion, you are being a little too sensitive. I would try a remark delivered with an even-keel, such as "I'm just diong what my doctor tells me" or "maybe when it has healed a bit more I'll be ready for physical therapy." I'm sure your boss thinks he is helping you...having gone through prolonged ortho issues and having seen the benefits of physical therapy. If your boss is having one on ones with you and you have a good relationship, you could let him/her know that you'd appreciate him/her not drawing any additional attention to your walking boot because you are already self-conscious about it. That defuses the convo. a bit more. Just some thoughts...I hope you heal soon!