This is the second of 4 shows giving a high level overview of how to communicate with different behavioral styles at work. Last month we covered the "D" in DiSC®, today we cover the "I" (influencer) in detail. If you're looking for a quick review of the DiSC Model, you can find it here.

04/09/2006 Update: In addition to the DiSC Summary document, we've also added the How To Use The DiSC To Be More Effective Every Day cheat sheet. You'll really like this one ... be sure to check it out here.

If you are interested in learning in detail about YOUR profile, you may purchase the online version of the DiSC Profile here.

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This week's show (part 1 of 2 parts) is about a rarely used but powerful Manager Tool, The Skip Level.

If you've ever wondered what was going at senior levels, and thought that if "they" would keep you informed, things would be a whole lot better, the Skip Level is YOUR way of reducing those problems in your part of your organization. The fact is, it's hard to communicate even directly to your team. Many of us learned that when we "discover" our teams through One on Ones.

Last week, we discussed some basic things you need to know about recruiters and specifically how to handle the first call from the recruiter. Today, we discuss the key questions to ask them, as well as how to address their specific request. Additionally, we discuss what you can do to maintain a good relationship with them going forward. Would it surprise you that it looks a lot like maintaining ANY relationship?

We hate to use the name headhunters rather than recruiters, because Mark never liked that term when it was applied to him. But it's a pretty common nickname for a group that is playing an increasingly important role in career management today. The World is Flat has taught us that no job is safe (note even fast food order takers!). Companies are no longer taking responsibility for your career. Tom Peters believes in a Brand Called "You". Your career and its transitions are IN YOUR HANDS.

This is the first of 4 shows giving a high level overview of how to communicate with different behavioral styles at work. We recently used the DiSC® profile system to supplement the way we give feedback. This is a broader application of the four major styles of behavior in the workplace, and how to modify OUR behavior to be more effective with them. After listening to the show, print and use the information below to serve as a quick reminder of some of the key characteristics of the high "D".

Dominant Director Business Characteristics

• Prefer time frames
• Seek personal control
• Get to the point
• Strive to feel important and be noteworthy in their jobs
• Demonstrate persistence and single-mindedness to reach goal
• Express high ego strength
• Prefer to downplay feelings and relationships
• Focus on task actions that lead to achieving tangible outcomes
• Implement changes in the workplace
• Tend to freely delegate duties, enabling them to take on more projects

Dominant Director: Preferred Business Situations

• Like to call the shots and tell others what to do
• Like to challenging workloads which fuel their energy levels
• Tend to personally oversee, or at least know about, their employees' or co-worker's business activities
• Like to say what's on their minds without being concerned about hurting anybody's feelings
• Enjoy taking risks and being involved in changes
• Prefer to interpret the rules and answer to themselves alone
• Interested in the answers to what questions, not how ones
• Like to see a logical road toward increasing and ongoing advancement, since bigger is better to them

Discussion Forums As we discuss at the end of the podcast, we've noted that although many of our listeners really would like to engage in more meaningful discussions on management topics, the blog doesn't lend itself too well to the task. We've attempted to improve the situation by implementing discussion forums on our website. You can find the discussion forums here. We'd very much appreciate it if you would direct your questions and comments to the discussion forums vs. leaving them here on the blog or sending them to us via email. There are an awful lot of good conversations happening, particularly on email, that we would like to share with the broader Manager Tools community. If you have a particular challenge or question for us, it's very likely that others do so as well ... sharing your problems/questions on the discussion forum will allow all of us to benefit and learn!

If you are interested in learning in detail about YOUR profile, you may purchase the online version of the DiSC Profile here.

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How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Influence: Science and Practice by Robert B. Cialdini

The Minto Pyramid Principle: Logic in Writing, Thinking and Problem Solving

It's been quite a while since we talked about feedback. We think one of the reasons for that is that there's some negativity to it.

What we mean by that is that one on ones are an easy winner. It's about your team member, they want more time with you, a half hour with you every week seems too good to be true. And, if you've stuck to it, you've noticed improvements in areas that go beyond just employee relationships. Maybe they're kind of hard on your schedule INITIALLY, but they're perceived positively. Not so much with feedback.

I bet when we even SAID feedback, some of you cringed. Even though we encourage AFFIRMING as well as adjusting feedback, for some reason managers have a somewhat negative reaction to the feedback model. And we think we know why: because adjusting feedback introduces conflict, or tension.

Let's not argue the merits of the value that sandpaper delivers to fine woodwork here today. Rather, we have an additional level of learning for you to use when you deliver feedback. Or put differently, we have an add-on to this tool which will make you more willing to use it, and will make the tool even MORE effective. (Though those of you who use it will find that hard to believe.)

During the show, we make reference to the DiSC® Behavioral Model. You'll find a useful summary of the DiSC model here. You may even want to print it out and have nearby while you listen to the show. If you are interested in learning in detail about YOUR profile, you may purchase the online version of the DiSC Profile here.

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Last week, we discussed the "Listening" side of communications. This week, we cover the other side, the "Responding" side. Of course, responding when you're in agreement is the easy part. However, how do you respond when you disagree or there is potential conflict? That, my friend, is what this week's podcast is about!

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