Welp, I finally did it
After hearing Mark say several times on several topics,"...and if you can't do that, get out of management" I finally have. After 16 years I am just too thin skinned to be in management. I can't laugh about an issue so I seldom give feedback and it's not effective. I have taken a transfer within the company (including a raise although I don't have their preferred qualifications-- thanks interview series!) where I can use my strengths as an individual contributor. The best thing I've done in my transition is turn my peers and likely successor onto Manager Tools.
Thank you for a collegial atmosphere over the years. I'll see you around Career Tools.