How To Attend Happy Hour - Part 1

Submitted by mauzenne on Fri, 03/08/2013 - 04:09.

Our guidance on how to attend happy hour.

Your boss and your co-workers are going to happy hour. Should you go? Should you drink? Should you just go home and read a story to your kids/go to the gym/do what you want to do? Do you really have to hang out with the people you work with all day? In this guidance we give you all the answers.

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Submitted by techboy on Sat, 03/09/2013 - 00:42.

This podcast hits me right in the face

I generally agree with the advice you guys provide but this one doesn't sit well with me. I'm a quiet person, I rarely drink unless I'm with family for holidays or special occasions. Some may even want to call me odd, weird, geek, "introvert", pain in the neck, etc. For me, work really is just work, I don't spent 8+hrs at work to form relationships...I want to be great and efficient at what I do for the company and that is all.

Sometimes, I think you guys mixed the idea of building relationship with advancement or social networking too much to the point that everything you do at work has a means to an end. For me, I just want that paycheck every two weeks. IF I can form a life long bond with some coworkers during work that is great. Build trust via work and shared goals...I value this type of friendship more than those form with drinks.

Submitted by sailor on Sun, 03/10/2013 - 15:44.

sweet

Encouragement to attend happy hour... sweet.

I happen to like gin and tonic. Which is convenient if I don't want to drink in a situation, I can stand around with tonic and lime in my glass and some folks assume I have the gin in there too. Well, not always.

Granted, others really shouldn't be judging you on your ability to consume alcohol, but reality is, sometimes they do.

If you happen to like dark beers, Guinness low alcohol and filling. Handy if you're arriving starved. Light beers, sorry, I can't comment.

And since cider is in vogue, I've found that some of the newer ciders are a bit lighter in their effect on me, appreciated, as I get older and less tolerant.

The best is in the UK, where one can order a half pint (8 oz). Now that's just right.

Submitted by mahorstman on Mon, 03/11/2013 - 21:19.

Naaah.

Techboy-

We'll just have to agree to disagree, I suspect. We encouraged you NOT to drink if you so chose...and both Wendii and I know that less people drink at organizational happy hours than most people realize. So, no need to consume alcohol.

Building relationships and advancement are inextricably linked. We, too, wish it were not so, but we recommend actions to deal with the professional world as it exists.

Half of the people in the world don't build trust the way you do...and that's a lot of folks to write off in one's quest for effectiveness.

We stand by our recommendations. And we have more introverts here than extroverts.

Mark

Submitted by techboy on Tue, 03/12/2013 - 02:50.

Trust?

Yes, Mark. We will disagree on this one for sure. Half of the people in this world isn't worth trusting either. I do believe we are talking about two-sides of the same coin with different approaches. Efficient at building relationships doesn't equal to efficient at your job or even know how to do your job.

Again, I like what you guys done over the years with this site and podcast, just certain things I can't agree with wholeheartedly, especially when recommendations that sounds calculated and feels like a means to an end.

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