How To Handle Conflict With A High C

Questions This Guidance Answers: 
  • How do I reduce conflict with a High I?
  • What does a High I want from conflict?

Our guidance on how to deal with conflict with a High C.

Conflict is a subject we get asked about relatively often. As Mark's Dad says, the definition of conflict is two human beings in the same county. With 5, 10, 100, 1000 human beings in an organization, there's bound to be some conflict. Each of the DiSC styles handles conflict differently. You'll be more effective if you understand the conflict from the other person's point of view - you might even get to the holy grail of a win win situation.


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Excellent Cast

Dear Mark and Mike,

I am a long-time listener (almost from the very beginning and almost every single cast), but this is the first one that has motivated me to write.  Not that the others weren't helpful - I have learned so much from you guys, over the years.  But this one resonated in a special way.

My daughter is a tween and we have been having the usual mother-daughter battles that have gotten more and more intense.  I notice that they just drain me of energy, so I can only imagine that they are equally hard on her.  Then I listened to this podcast and applied the DISC model to us - we are polar opposites. She is a very high C and I am an off-the-charts high I.  No wonder even micro-interactions ended up in crying spells and arguments (some of it is probably hormonal).  Your point about defining the problem and not making it personal gives me a much more effective approach.That and letting go of the small stuff!

I doubt that solving mother-daughter conflicts was even in the realm of possibility when you started these casts.  Who knew, right?  Manager/ Career tools has helped me immensely in my career.   I look forward to more harmonious conversations with my daughter.  Thank you, thank you.  I know that it is a lot of hard work to churn these casts out week after week .  I want to let you know how much I appreciate what you do.

Best,

- Sonali

p.s. Mark - when is that book coming out?

 I think conflict can also

 I think conflict can also be defined as an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals. It is nice to learn about handling these conflicts. I look forward to more harmonious conversations with you about handling conflicts with a High C. does gripgo work